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Francesca Lupo
Live By Your Own Rules

I'm learning to listen more to myself and my needs

Sto imparando a dare più ascolto a me stessa e ai miei bisogni

Quick summary

Through major life transitions including separation and family challenges, she discovered she had been seeking external approval rather than honoring her own needs. The Quest helped her find courage to embrace vulnerability and shift from survival mode to trusting herself and the universe's design.

Translated from Italian by AI. Francesca wrote this story in Italian.

I'm in a phase of reorganising my life: in the last 3 years I separated from my husband, I live with my two children, my parents have had health problems and have become disabled, I'm reorganising my working life, between employment/consulting and work as an entrepreneur. I'm learning to listen more to myself and my needs. The QUEST helped me reflect and find the courage to show my vulnerabilities. The separation and the changes in my relationships, with parents and with children who are growing up, are helping me understand a lot about myself and how much until now I was constantly seeking approval rather than expressing my needs and desires. I'm trying to get clear within myself about what I want for my future, I'm more aware that many choices I made in the past were dictated by "external" ideas and beliefs, rather than by my own desires. I'm looking for the courage to face my fears and my dysfunctional blocks... To be more surfer than hustler. Some days I manage to be more relaxed and to trust the design of the universe.... Other days I fall back into my Hustler mode, and anxiety and self-judgement take hold of me. I know I need to talk with and work on myself to increase my self-esteem and my trust in myself before trusting others... To have more trust in MY Rules, in my white hair and in my desire to dye it fuchsia whenever I feel like it. With this quest and by following Mindvalley I'm getting out of my survival mode. I'd like to speed up this process. .... I definitely need to improve my communication skills, and learn to be more direct.


Francesca Lupo

Business Owner

Salerno, Italy

Manifest Your Goals

Written 20 January 2020 From our original stories site Translated from Italian by Mindvalley

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