"Start with this quest, you will get to know yourself better, and come to your core"
Live By Your Own Rules

"Start with this quest, you will get to know yourself better, and come to your core"

Live by your own rules... I always wanted that, but I must say didn't have the courage to do so... Or better, I didn't care... Didn't care about me... What I wan't... Suppressing my wants and desires... My feelings when they didn't match my surroundings... When it was time to step up for myself... So, I've ignored my feelings and desires... I must say it is a crappy way to live your life... You suppress yourself, plus you regret not doing the way you wanted, and always asking yourself what could have been...
 So, the title of the quest immediately drawn me... Since I've joined Mindvalley, I started to change... Consciously... Before that, I was also changing... But not consciously... Just going with flow, like the leaf on the wind... Going in the direction the wind was blowing... But, since I've joined Mindvalley, I've started to taking control into my hands... O. what a ride it was, lol... It still is... 
 So, I was drawn to the quest, but it took me some time to finish it... I guess it took me time to get courage... Because, it is scary... Going out of your comfort zone, going to unknown... And look yourself in the eyes... Honestly... But, it's worthy...Every step on the way...
 Just couple days ago I've reflected a little bit... In my mind... And I was surprised... Didn't think I've changed this much, and this is only the beginning... 
 For example... I live in small Croatia... My surroundings is pretty conservative... And living by some rules that where created way back... 
 I've separated with my husband year a half ago... There is no romantic feelings anymore... And my ex husband was away for a while... Out of the apartment... Since we've separated, I went to live back with my mother... I didn't have another option...And while he was away, I've came to the idea to move to his apartment to be alone... Because, honestly... My mother says that even Bible says that mothers and daughters don't get along good... O, what a bull*hit, but that is how she thinks... It's just... We are different persons, and we get along better when we don't live together... So, I've stayed in my ex husband's apartment... And now he is back... We had a big talk, and he suggested that I stay here while I don't get something on my own... While I don't manage my finances... I must say, at first I was like, what? How will that work? But, then I've realized it's just another bulls*it rule... Why wouldn't it work? We are purely friends, there are no romantic feelings anymore... ... And he has room in his apartment... So, I've decided to accept his offer...
 Now, this is huge for my surroundings, huge for all sort of rules... But, I don't care... I honestly don't care anymore what will anyone else think, and say... I will live my life how I want, think and feel it is the best... It is my life... And on my surprise, I don't feel the guilt anymore... Guilt I was feeling not doing the way someone else wanted me to do... I am living my life as I want! Finally!:)
 Thank you so much for this quest, it helped me so much... I think I wasn't even aware how much it helped me until I've reflected... 
 So, I recommend this quest to anyone who feels there is more, more of life... But not sure where to start... Start with this quest, you will get to know yourself better, and come to your core. What you truly feel and want... 
 Or I would recommend it to anyone who doesn't know what they actually want... This quest will get you to know yourself better...
 Actually, I would recommend this quest to everyone... We all have some hidden stuff, parts of ourselves to work on... And this quest will give you direction... Direction where to start, and you will know which way to go... Which path to take... 
 So, stay well beautiful souls, and remember... Don't let anyone tell you how to live your life... Trust me, if I can change then so can you, definitely...
 Much love to everyone

Marta Dreamer

Healthcare Administrator

Zagreb, Croatia

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