Before Lifebook, I was very narrowly focused on my health and fitness, my career and our financial goals. I neglected my relationship with my husband of 31 years and we had a mediocre relationship at best. I did not deeply value my relationship and took it for granted. We lived very separate, independent lives for the most part. I also devoted very little time and energy to my friendships as I always felt time pressure to accomplish my own personal goals.
Thanks to Lifebook, I am working on creating much more balance and harmony among the 12 life categories and feeling more whole as a person. The biggest shift that is taking place is I am starting to value my relationship with my husband and taking steps to spend more quality time together. I am more conscious of treating him with kindness, consideration and compassion. I am more conscious of stopping my tendency to make continuous demands on him (related to household projects) and I am more able to let go of my attempts to control him (even though it was generally with good intention). I am trying to be a better partner rather than looking for him to do all of the changing. I am also putting more time and energy into my friendships and valuing them more as well.
And now, as I am about to retire on my 63rd birthday, my life feels full of exciting potential to be my best self and live my best life. While my husband does not feel up to doing Lifebook, he does seem to be positively responding to my new-found interest in him and the things I share about how we can improve the quality of our relationship and live our best lives together. At first he seemed a bit threatened by the prospect of me increasing expectations for our relationship but now he seems to be on board with each of us doing our parts to create a higher quality relationship. As we face this next chapter of our lives where we will have more time together, this is a true gift.
Thank you Jon and Missy. I am deeply grateful to both of you for the profound difference you have made in my life/our lives. You have been tremendous role models of what is possible in a love relationship, even after 30+ years of marriage. While I'm not so sure we will ever reach the absolutely extraordinary level of your relationship, I know we are capable of doing much, much better and I now have a vision of what is possible and how to get there.
Thanks to Lifebook, I am working on creating much more balance and harmony among the 12 life categories and feeling more whole as a person. The biggest shift that is taking place is I am starting to value my relationship with my husband and taking steps to spend more quality time together. I am more conscious of treating him with kindness, consideration and compassion. I am more conscious of stopping my tendency to make continuous demands on him (related to household projects) and I am more able to let go of my attempts to control him (even though it was generally with good intention). I am trying to be a better partner rather than looking for him to do all of the changing. I am also putting more time and energy into my friendships and valuing them more as well.
And now, as I am about to retire on my 63rd birthday, my life feels full of exciting potential to be my best self and live my best life. While my husband does not feel up to doing Lifebook, he does seem to be positively responding to my new-found interest in him and the things I share about how we can improve the quality of our relationship and live our best lives together. At first he seemed a bit threatened by the prospect of me increasing expectations for our relationship but now he seems to be on board with each of us doing our parts to create a higher quality relationship. As we face this next chapter of our lives where we will have more time together, this is a true gift.
Thank you Jon and Missy. I am deeply grateful to both of you for the profound difference you have made in my life/our lives. You have been tremendous role models of what is possible in a love relationship, even after 30+ years of marriage. While I'm not so sure we will ever reach the absolutely extraordinary level of your relationship, I know we are capable of doing much, much better and I now have a vision of what is possible and how to get there.