I have traveled in the mindfulness space, through yoga and a bit of meditation, for over 20 years. Yet, although I embraced the philosophy and benefits of these tools to bring my best self to the world, I found I was compartmentalizing when and how I showed up as my true, authentic self.
I couldn't understand why I was often stuck in people pleasing mode and searching for validation from the outside world. I shut myself off from the perspective that I could bring so much more to those I love, to those I serve, if I first focused on myself, what I wanted, what I needed (self-care -- as simple as enough sleep, exercise and down time). Instead, I often stayed "in the grind" -- doing as much as I could, as fast as I could for others, what I thought they "needed," by my definition - which, upon reflection, was formed by the culturescape. (Thank you, Vishen!) I was stuck in the paradigm of "this is what you're 'supposed to' do." Exhausted and without recognizing it as covert control, I often numbed my confusion at not being able to fully connect with those I loved the most.
I couldn't understand why I was often stuck in people pleasing mode and searching for validation from the outside world. I shut myself off from the perspective that I could bring so much more to those I love, to those I serve, if I first focused on myself, what I wanted, what I needed (self-care -- as simple as enough sleep, exercise and down time). Instead, I often stayed "in the grind" -- doing as much as I could, as fast as I could for others, what I thought they "needed," by my definition - which, upon reflection, was formed by the culturescape. (Thank you, Vishen!) I was stuck in the paradigm of "this is what you're 'supposed to' do." Exhausted and without recognizing it as covert control, I often numbed my confusion at not being able to fully connect with those I loved the most.
After the devastating, shocking, heartbreaking and sudden departure of my beloved husband of 24 years, two years ago, I somehow found the sob-choked strength to utter the words, "I will navigate this journey with dignity, honor and grace." This began my journey of a transformational experience of learning and understanding; to fully integrating mindfulness tools into the very essence of my being; to becoming a presence in the world, rather than of the world. My exploration of a deeper knowing, through thought leaders, inspirational teachers, authors and various resources, led me to Mindvalley. I found the numerous Quests I took part in to be profoundly insightful, building upon what I had already learned, taking me to a deeper level of peace.
Encouraged by this "knowing," finding myself in a new state of calm, listening to learn and sharing my insights with others -- only when asked -- shifted my entire mindset and perspective of the world. Drawn to helping others already, having practiced law for 35 years, I recognized that the piece of that work that most resonated with me was the engagement and connection with each individual client. I now felt drawn to inspire others to embrace this mindset shift I was experiencing, this new way of viewing life. Yet, I did not know how to organize these realities, this new way of connecting and guiding others to their purpose, their very reason for being and how to be. This is what drew me to embark on the Certified Life Coach Quest.
I am profoundly grateful for the CLC Quest. The clarity and organization of the skills and tools needed to help others -- as well as myself -- on a journey of self-exploration and mindfulness, to recognize how limiting beliefs hold us back, the value of empathy and vulnerability and the "permission" to be joyful and inspired by each moment, has empowered me to believe and hold faith that I am making contributions to this world that not only serve those I work with with, but me as well, in the pursuit of those dreamed-of experiences on my MIQ list!!