The conscious parenting journey of an unconscious mum.
I have been following Dr Shefali for almost two years. I was introduced to Dr. Shefali just over two years ago when she came to my son’s school in Dubai. We had just moved here a few months earlier and I was new to the country with three kids, one of them a newborn. I was struggling with the move, PPD and dealing with a preteen at the time. I started following her almost one year ago daily on Instagram and facebook. The more I learned about her work, the more I listened to her interviews and the more I read of her books, the more I felt that I needed to embark on the journey of conscious parenting. Time elapsed and I just never took action on doing the CP course. I was waiting for a live event that I would someday attend. Then the breakthrough came when I saw an advertisement on Mindvalley for the course. It was at a time in my life as a parent that I had been struggling on dealing with a 13 year old girl and a 10 year old boy as well as a three year old baby.
To start, as a mum of three kids whose husband travels constantly, living in a country with not much support, was very difficult. I struggled with PPD for almost three years, and when my daughter became a teenager, and my son a preteen, everything seemed to trigger me. I went to see a psychologist for almost two years and I still didn’t have the tools to “manage” my kids. I stopped seeing anyone and went back into a rut. I would get angry at my kids, yell at them constantly, hence scaring my little one because of the yelling, and just having serious anxiety and nervous breakdowns in front of my kids. I was completely heartbroken, because I want to be the best mum I can be and do what is right for my kids, according to my family, my husband and cultural beliefs. I knew in my heart of hearts, that I was not being authentic, and that what my family thought was the “right thing” to do was not the right thing for me and my kids.
When I started the course I was very emotional, anxious, resentful and angry, I knew before I even started that my kids were not the issue. I knew that I had to deal with a lot of underlying issues within myself and needed to work through them in order to be a better parent. I played full out in the course, I did my work, and dove deep into my soul. I worked on healing myself, and realized how broken my inner child was, and started healing it part by part.
Since taking the course, I have shifted the way I deal with my kids. I cannot say it is perfect and that I am not triggered sometimes, but the instants of rage, resentment, anger and anxiety have massively shifted and reduced. I am more in touch with my soul, and almost every time I feel upset or triggered by one of my children, I go to that space of consciousness and ask myself to really look deep into my soul and see why I am triggered.
Where do I still need to heal and do more work. I meditate twice daily, I connect to my breathing and I am MUCH more conscious about my actions and feelings and how I parent. There are days when I still get angry and say things I don’t mean, but there are a lot more days where I am truly more connected to them and able to be present and feel that I am the parent I need to be for my children.
The Conscious Parenting Course has shifted my life with not only my kids, but also my husband and my family. I have learned to be more compassionate with my parents, more compassionate with my husband and children, but ultimately more compassionate with myself. I am more able to connect with my inner child and able to work through my feelings and take deep breaths to be able to connect with my children and deal with any situation that arises.
My household is a lot more peaceful now, my kids are more peaceful and feel safer in their environment. I have also seen a shift in their motivation to do better in their own lives, and work harder on their goals without any interference from the outside world. They have become more compassionate with me, and they are more compassionate with themselves.
This course has really helped give me the tools and give them the tools to be more conscious in their own lives.
Since taking the course, I have shifted the way I deal with my kids. I cannot say it is perfect and that I am not triggered sometimes, but the instants of rage, resentment, anger and anxiety have massively shifted and reduced. I am more in touch with my soul, and almost every time I feel upset or triggered by one of my children, I go to that space of consciousness and ask myself to really look deep into my soul and see why I am triggered.
Where do I still need to heal and do more work. I meditate twice daily, I connect to my breathing and I am MUCH more conscious about my actions and feelings and how I parent. There are days when I still get angry and say things I don’t mean, but there are a lot more days where I am truly more connected to them and able to be present and feel that I am the parent I need to be for my children.
The Conscious Parenting Course has shifted my life with not only my kids, but also my husband and my family. I have learned to be more compassionate with my parents, more compassionate with my husband and children, but ultimately more compassionate with myself. I am more able to connect with my inner child and able to work through my feelings and take deep breaths to be able to connect with my children and deal with any situation that arises.
My household is a lot more peaceful now, my kids are more peaceful and feel safer in their environment. I have also seen a shift in their motivation to do better in their own lives, and work harder on their goals without any interference from the outside world. They have become more compassionate with me, and they are more compassionate with themselves.
This course has really helped give me the tools and give them the tools to be more conscious in their own lives.
My next plan is to become certified next year to become a conscious parenting coach.
