Magnetic Charisma
I feel Magnetic Charisma is a MUST quest for everyone!
Let me allow to be vulnerable in this moment and share what I have experienced. It was something I never quite understood before doing this quest. I used to have a habit of high jacking conversations in any social setting. I worked hard to break this embarrassing habit by being mindful, which made it less regular. But even its occasional occurrence was enough to frustrate me. I am quite a confident person in my everyday personal and professional life.
Being an extrovert, I reckoned that social anxiety is something which belongs to introverts only. Certain examples of social anxiety given in this quest came as an utter surprise. As I, too, had experienced them. Sometimes we cannot remove our blocks because we do not have a name for them. Without a name, we cannot see and understand their full purpose. This was the case with me. Since my block was operating at a sub-conscious level, I was unaware of its agendas. It was timid and silent in everyday life, so I could not even have time to reflective upon it in my alone moments. Bold, flaunting, and inconsiderate in some social gathering. Now, since it has a name, I can personify my block/habit so easily. Back then, I could not even comprehend, let alone to deal with it. Each episode was a bundle of discomfort and embarrassment, restlessly mocking at me for days.
Being an extrovert, I reckoned that social anxiety is something which belongs to introverts only. Certain examples of social anxiety given in this quest came as an utter surprise. As I, too, had experienced them. Sometimes we cannot remove our blocks because we do not have a name for them. Without a name, we cannot see and understand their full purpose. This was the case with me. Since my block was operating at a sub-conscious level, I was unaware of its agendas. It was timid and silent in everyday life, so I could not even have time to reflective upon it in my alone moments. Bold, flaunting, and inconsiderate in some social gathering. Now, since it has a name, I can personify my block/habit so easily. Back then, I could not even comprehend, let alone to deal with it. Each episode was a bundle of discomfort and embarrassment, restlessly mocking at me for days.
When Venessa explained different signs of social anxiety. I realised I was experiencing the classic behaviour of social anxiety. That was indeed my aha-moment. I could not have labelled it under social anxiety even in a million years. This was truly amazing, as well as liberating. Now I have named my behaviour as social anxiety and having this knowledge gave me an extra edge over it. I felt anonymity, power, and the weaponry of its triggers lost their influence over me instantly. Just naming it turned the tables around. The next step was to apply the practical methods given in this quest to overcome my social anxiety. And you know what, when I applied those beautiful techniques, my social anxiety evaporated in a thin air as if it had never existed.
Before this quest, I thought that charisma is a quality of character which comes by birth. Vanessa Van Edwards explained that charisma is a skill. Anyone can easily pick and inculcate it in their personality by applying simple yet effective tools and techniques shared in this quest. Charisma is indeed a key skill to have success in our personal and professional lives.
This beautiful quest is loaded with wisdom and everyday applicable knowledge. Vanessa completely changed my understanding of personal charisma. She does not touch it at a superficial level. Rather, digs deep into the multiple layers of charisma. Every lesson is based on scientific evidence, studies, and research. The knowledge shared in this quest helped me to understand myself at a different level. Now I see through the new lens of charisma. It helped me to distinguish between charismatic and non-charismatic aspects of my personality. On one hand, it had given me a clear road map to cultivate authentic relationships. On the other, it showed me ways how to be compassionate to myself. All techniques in Magnetic Charisma are easily applicable be it setting boundaries, having charisma goals, or starting positive spark and so on. I have used them throughout the quest. The result was startling even at its first attempt. This was quite a big win for me!
Vanessa shared about beautiful ways of creating magnetic charisma, be it in person or online. Just to name a few, such as using the rules of space, impeccable language, cultivating empathy, having a firm grip on people's skills, how to be effective with anyone, or creating lasting impressions. Each lesson goes further into deep details. It fascinated me with the idea that charisma is a two-way path because charismatic people activate charisma in others. I feel being charismatic is a win- win situation for everyone. Isn't it amazing?
Social anxiety can happen to anyone, no matter whether they are introvert, ambivert or extrovert. Now I am not intimidated by my unacceptable behaviour of high jacking other's conversation. Now I have effective, instant, and easily applicable tools to get rid of it instantly if it ever dares to appear. It was an amazing and interesting experience using these tools and coming out of uncertainty. Another great win for me!
While I was doing this quest, Mindvalley had its 6-day online challenge, Make 2022 The Best Year of Your Life. It was time for me to test if I had learnt "charisma" as a skill. This challenge also gave an opportunity to Mindvalleys' students to share their stories via zoom. On the 5th day of the online challenge, I was given a chance to share my story with the online audience of approximately one thousand and five hundred people. This was my ever first experience of speaking in front of such a large audience. I applied all the techniques learnt in Magnetic Charisma quest. My words, body, space, and language became one which made my audience to connect with me immediately. I could not believe that I was influancing them by using techniques learnt in this quest until I read trail of positive and impressive feedback from the online audience and fellow Mindvalley members. The feedback gave me another level of assurance that charisma is actually a skill which can be learnt. Their words were indeed a proof of the effectiveness of this quest.
I am so happy and grateful to be part of this beautiful process of beta testing. It had allowed me to make some connections within the Mindvalley family. I feel deep gratitude to Mindvalley for having this safe and scared space where we learn how to become the best version of ourselves. A huge thankyou to Vanessa Van Edwards for creating such empowering and valuable content. Last but not least, a deep gratitude to my fellow Mindvalley family involved in this Beta testing who never leave a change not to inspire me with their wisdom, love, and kindness.
I strongly feel that this quest must be taught to everyone so we can leave lasting and effective impressions on each other's minds, hearts, and souls. Wouldn't it be an amazing world if we could only bring the best and beautiful out of ourselves?
I am committed to repeat this quest again from time to time as it had given me such powerful tools. Repetition makes the progress.
I truly feel it is a must quest for everyone because the more charismatic people we will have, the more beautiful world we will create.
Are you ready to be magnetically charismatic? Just click the quest link and it will be done!
With deep gratitude,
Tasneem Goheer
Ambassador at Mindvalley
Tasneem Goheer
Ambassador at Mindvalley